Other news: We went to the Pierce County Annex building today and got our marriage license. It took about 10 minutes including the time it took to fill out the paperwork, so it was much easier than we expected it to be!
Our interesting story from the Pierce County Annex: The room we were in is also for vehicle stuff and it was packed. Only one woman was doing the marriage licenses, but it wasn't like there were a lot of people there for that, so as soon as we took a number, it was called. And thank goodness. There was a woman there with 3 children and one of them was screaming at the top of his lungs (not just yelling, but talking and laughing as loud as he could) and she was doing nothing about it. In the lull when he took a breath, we heard her loudly explaining to the woman next to her that no one liked it when she brought her son with her anywhere because he yells all the time. But, as she explained, there was nothing she could do about it. She'd tried putting her hand over his mouth, but that just made him scream louder. She felt like it wasn't fair that no one liked her son, as he really was a bright and sweet child. She said this as everyone in the small, echo-y room was having their eardrums shattered. I did take a good look at this little boy and watched his interactions with the other children when he wasn't screaming and saw him very clearly enjoying making a scene. He wasn't having a tantrum, he was just yelling because he could. Can you say spanking?
As someone who taught 15 and 16-year olds, I just have to say that that is where it starts. If you don't discipline your children at a young age, how are they going to be successful in life? And how are people like teachers and bosses supposed to deal with these kids as they grow up and become surly teens and lazy adults? If you don't discipline and follow through, you are setting your children up for failure. Making them happy and giving them what they want isn't good parenting, it's lazy parenting. Avoiding arguments and tantrums makes it easy on the parent, but it's selling the child short. In all fairness, I have no children and so shouldn't really be saying anything, but knowing the way Nick and I were raised, I have faith in us being good disciplinarians. We want our children to be successful, therefore, Nick and I will be imposing and enforcing boundaries. And everyone around us better hold us to that.
(Nick's addition: He calls these children "baby dirtbags and job security." People who had no discipline as children keep him in a job when they grow up. And he's knows he's being offensive, but that's Nick's conservative Republican ideals.)
And soapbox over. I hope we didn't actually offend anyone! We love you all!
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